"And here is the most important thing I’ve learned from 10 years in this world: fandom is about people. It is not about a tv show or a ship, it’s not about a character or a creator or about that one fanfic that changed the way you regard fanfic as a whole. Fandom is about finding people who love what you love. It’s about finding someone in Israel who has the same reaction to Milo Ventimiglia’s bottom lip, or someone in Singapore who will share in your Downton Abbey geekery, or someone in Michigan who knows what you mean when you can’t express your emotions beyond “!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.” And who will then ask you about your day, or send you a link they know will make you laugh, or recommend something else (a tv show, band, podcast, book, youtube video) they know you’re going to love. Because they know you."
i guarantee if all these new pronouns were used by a mythological culture in a fantasy series, all these cis people would learn and use them in a heartbeat and apply them to things that dont make any sense. because they care more about fictional people than trans people, haha.
(Source: faypunk, via ealperin)
"Try not to compromise. So many people don’t do what they really want in their hearts because they feel like they’re not good enough, or they’re not smart enough, or they’re not talented enough… anything. And that doesn’t matter. In order for you to live a remarkable life — in order for you to live a life that is fulfilling — you need to be able to go after what you want. And if you don’t, you’re not going to achieve it — ever."
The Dangers Of Being Right
Saturday morning, over breakfast, I had a chat with someone and it reminded of a thought I had the other day - one of the most dangerous things anyone can possess is the belief that they are infallible and right about any kind of issue (moral/ethical/social/scientific/etc.).
That certainty makes progress impossible because there’s no progress of any sort to be made. There’s no changing or evolution that can occur. That’s part of the reason we have such governmental gridlock in the U.S. There are a number of politicians of varying ideologies (this isn’t something limited to conservatives - progressives can fall in the same trap) who believe they are correct and no amount of information, data or evidence will change their mind.
Not knowing, on the other hand, leads to questions and listening to answers, or finding that there are no answers (or perhaps no satisfactory ones) and that in turn leads to discovery/change. However, admitting that ignorance requires humility. Being willing to acknowledge that is rare these days because it seems everyone wants to be thought of as someone who has all the answers.
And I freely admit I don’t have all the answers. Hell, I don’t even have all the questions. What I do have is the willingness to listen to people tell their stories, and the ability to grow as a result.
"Jesus was a radical, non-violent revolutionary who hung around with lepers, hookers and crooks; wasn’t American and never spoke English; was anti-wealth, anti-death penalty, anti-public prayer (M 6:5), but was never anti-gay; never mentioned abortion or birth control; never called the poor ‘lazy’; never justified torture; never fought for tax cuts for the wealthiest Nazarenes; never asked a leper for a co-pay; and was a long-haired, brown-skinned, homeless community-organizing, anti-slut-shaming, Middle Eastern Jew."
A black male could not offer his hand (to shake hands) with a white male because it implied being socially equal. Obviously, a black male could not offer his hand or any other part of his body to a white woman, because he risked being accused of rape.
Blacks and whites were not supposed to eat together. If they did eat together, whites were to be served first, and some sort of partition was to be placed between them.
Under no circumstance was a black male to offer to light the cigarette of a white female — that gesture implied intimacy.
Blacks were not allowed to show public affection toward one another in public, especially kissing, because it offended whites.
Jim Crow etiquette prescribed that blacks were introduced to whites, never whites to blacks. For example: “Mr. Peters (the white person), this is Charlie (the black person), that I spoke to you about.”
Whites did not use courtesy titles of respect when referring to blacks, for example, Mr., Mrs., Miss., Sir, or Ma’am. Instead, blacks were called by their first names. Blacks had to use courtesy titles when referring to whites, and were not allowed to call them by their first names.
If a black person rode in a car driven by a white person, the black person sat in the back seat, or the back of a truck.
White motorists had the right-of-way at all intersections.
Jim Crow Etiquette Just a little more history for the folks who think slavery was the end of racism in America. (via karnythia)
My suburban white friends were so confused that my parents introduced themselves as Mr. and Mrs. and that I always addressed adults that way. They just don’t know. And I don’t know how popular of a trend this was, but some Black folks gave their children honorifics as first names so white people would have no choice but to call them ‘Mister’ or ‘Sir’. Like, I know tangentially of a woman who’s first name is Doctor.
“Blacks were not allowed to show public affection toward one another in public, especially kissing, because it offended whites.”
Can we look at this one right here real close?
POC in intimate relationships showing each other affection *was considered offensive*. I am kinda wondering, given the absence of intra poc relationships in mass media, if it still is considered as such.
PRECISELY WHAT CAUGHT MY EYE. DA FUCK?????????????????
Well looking at this post, yes